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Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.

Experts and every day folks agree that the characteristic of love is a great part of life.  If you don’t love, don’t feel or give love, then your life is missing something.  We can maximize how we love.  Yet we have to make sure our love is pure and strong.

Last year I wrote a post about the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.  That post can be found at THIS LINK.  This book never stops to be talked about in counseling sessions that I lead.  In fact in pre-marital counseling I ask couples to read this book, and I believe that this book coupled with an online assessment I use (the Prepare/Enrich inventory of relationships) are the best tools to prepare people for godly and strong marriages.

Due to that fact I want to point you to this book.  Google it.  Go to your local bookstore or to Amazon to buy the book.  It will make a difference in your like.  That is why I share the major points of the book.  The five love languages are:

Words of Affirmation — This describes encouragement that is not expected from another person.  Saying, “I love you” is important, but hearing the reasons behind that love helps you believe that person really loves you.

Quality Time — This is undivided attention and time spent with the person you love.  By giving this gift of your day it makes someone feel truly special and loved.

Receiving Gifts — This is the person that enjoys to receive gifts, and this act of love, thoughtfulness, and effort leads you to believe you are cared for.

Acts of Service Anything you do to help or serve another person will speak volumes about your love.  Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them, tell those with this language their feelings don’t matter.

Physical Touch — This is not all about the bedroom.  This is hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches of many kinds to show excitement, concern, care, and love.  

Like learning a spoken language to communicate with others, learning your spouse’s and even your children’s love language will help them know your love is strong and real.  Find out what your love language is and the love language of the people closest to you.  Make a difference in the lives of the people you care about the most.

I want them to be encouraged and knit together by strong ties of love.  I want them to have complete confidence that they understand God’s mysterious plan, which is Christ himself.

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