Speaking the truth in love us always requires VISION from us. This is why people ask what is different in us. We see things different. We see past people's faults to their possibilities. We see past situations to salvation and even heaven. Matthew 15:18 (NASB) --- But the things that proceed out of the mouth come from the heart , and those defile the man. When you are looking to the future, do you see that the best is always yet to come? Are we thinking how we can influence someone for heaven --- literally living for it and not for the present? We die and the people around us die without real vision. Proverbs 29:18 (KJV) --- Where there is no vision , the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he. The more we understand and seek God, the more we will see people the way God sees them. But that requires that we have God kind of vision and sight. The present doesn't allow us to see everything. It is essential