I came arose this question late Sunday evening:
Husbands, are you pursuing your wife like you did "back then"? When's last time you went out of your way to communicate how valuable she is to you?
That is a powerful question. After the message I preached Sunday morning, I can see how God is working in my heart. Last week I examined the truth how we deal with passion. Today I preached on sex, and it may have been the hardest sermon that I have ever preached.
What amazed me most is the response and the graciousness of our people at The Community. When our men and our couples get honest with God and with each other, we will see huge things happen. We will find victory that only God can give. Does that happen for you? Far too often we are seeing our lives empty because we would rather settle for less than success and even pursue our pleasure rather the things of God. Ouch!
Here are some of the things I shared today:
Proverbs 5:16-19 (NASB) --- Drink water from your own cistern And fresh water from your own well. Should your springs be dispersed abroad, Streams of water in the streets? Let them be yours alone And not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love.
God created sex. He said this is good. But we have pushed this issue out of our churches and out of homes so that our kids learn about sex from friends and in the locker room. And why? It is because we are weak and don't believe what God says. We have got to gain our kids back by being honest with them. It is time to hear from God on this issue and stand on what he says.
I read from Song of Solomon, and our people were amazed at what was there (heck, I am blushing as I read it). This is a subject God cares about and he created for us to enjoy in the right context. Check out Song of Solomon. God intends sex for a married man and women and to celebrate the relationship he has given them. Yet many couples don't find success and victory in this area again because we don't claim what God says. One preacher said (and I quote) "no pets, no other people, no porn; everything else is fair game."
If you are interested in reading / studying more about a Christian view of sex, check out what Mark Driscoll from Mars Hill Church shared HERE.
I will close for now. But I have to give you the same challenge that I shared with our church family. It is time to live in victory, to celebrate our marriages and to be who God created us to be. Here is the place to start:
Proverbs 4:23 (NLT) --- Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.
That's it. But I'd like to hear what you have to say on this issue. You can comment on my blog HERE or reply to this email. My prayer is that we will see God restore relationships and break the bondage that many people are in today. Your turn...