We need some understanding. Every one of us have history with God. We are His kids, He cares for us, and His plan is to give us abundant life. It is important that both people, husband and wife, in a marriage do their part.
Ladies, submission isn't a dirty word (when you understand it). God intends for you to connect with Him and for your life to demonstrate your love for God and that you honor your husband.
Guys, we must try to understand her as well as treat her with dignity and respect. When we honor our wives, we are honoring God. Jesus is our example. He died for us, His church, and we must be ready to serve our wives any way that makes her more successful in life.
1 Peter 3:1,7 nasb
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives,… You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.
I also shared what I call Keys to making our Relationships work and here they are:
1. seek peace "live harmonious"
2. sympathy for others (try to get into their shoes)
3. sincere kindness (brotherly, we are family, golden rule)
4. simple humility goes a long way
5. share blessings, set aside getting even
1 Peter 3:10-12 nasb
For, "The one who desires life, to love and see good days, Must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit. "He must turn away from evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it. "For the eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous, And his ears attend to their prayer, But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil."
If we want to have a blessed life, we must let God work in our lives. Connect with God more and honor your spouse or others that you have a relationship with. God will use you to bless, encourage and honor others. In turn, you will be blessed!
1 Peter 3:9 nasb
…for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.