For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
The word shame here means to be ashamed and to feel completely worthless. I've been there, and I bet you have as well. But Adam and Eve had no sin at this point which meant they had no shame!
When we hold secrets and shame, those things SEPARATE our relationships and begin to pollute our lives. Literally, Satan came in to Adam and Eve, and the story goes on…
Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves…and they hid from the LORD… But the LORD God called to the man, "Where are you?" He answered, "I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid."
Shame makes us want to hide. Sin begins shame. Shame separates us from God and others. Satan shame game goes like this: You experience something deeply painful or sinful. At that point you connect what happened with who you are. Satan loves to connect the wrong with who you are! It is then that you believe the only way to be safe is to hide.
Adam and Eve swallowed the lie that they had to hide from God. This is a totally wrong believe. We hide because of the unknown and shame. Thus we cover up or hide.
God wants us to live in truth and not in lies. He tells us that when we get closer to Him and to others that life is stronger and better. When we deal with our shame and secrets by hiding we end up with trouble.
WHEREVER SECRETS LIVE, INTIMACY DIES.
WHEREVER INTIMACY LIVES, SECRETS DIE.
Get close to God and know forgiveness. Stay open with your spouse, closeness comes. Hide or keep secrets and separation grows!
WHAT ARE YOU HIDING? There are big deals and things not so big. DON'T HIDE. Is it your Job, health, feelings, past happenings, addiction or other bad thing? The closer we get to God the closer we get to each other. Get really with who you are and where you've been, God loves you
to open their eyes so that they may turn from darkness to light and from the dominion of Satan to God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins and an inheritance among those who have been sanctified by faith in Me.'
God told us and given what we need to live in the light and not in darkness. Believe God. Let His truth deal with your guilt, sin and shame. Uncover those issues and struggles so that God can work in your life in ways to free you and not tie to you more struggles.
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth)…
Our eyes adjust to darkness. When you spend an extended amount of time in a dark place, your eyes adjust to the start. We've been living in the darkness so long that it has become OK. It is not right. We need God to deliver us from the things that make us hide.
Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible, for it is light that makes everything visible.
Here are some things that will help you deal with shame and sin.
CONFESS YOUR SECRET. Those who need to confess, just do it. It might hurt at first, but God will help you through
but if we walk in the Light as He Himself is in the Light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin.
RECEIVE ANY CONFESSIONS WITH GRACE. We are often tempted to respond with anger. Remember what God has done for you
PRAY TOGETHER. Prayer is a part of your life and it has to be. Together we are stronger. Seek God by yourself and together. Invite God into the middle of your lives.
COMMIT TO THE HEALING JOURNEY TOGETHER. Miracles could come if you will let them. But for most it is a process. Walk together.
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.