Sunday, February 12, 2012

making a commitment


The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD.

19 years ago this evening I sat across the table from the most beautiful girl in the world.  We met only a few months prior, but the 5 weeks prior to that night were ones that go in the memory books for Julie and me.

It was February 12, 1993 that I asked Julie to marry me.  At a special restaurant in Vidalia, Georgia I got up from my chair and knelt on one knee while handing her a ring.  It was carefully placed in the top of a red rose and had a small note attached.  I asked her to be my wife, and she said yes.  As the old saying goes, that is the rest of the story.

In these years we have had a journey that I would travel with no one else.  We’ve had our difficult times, our struggles and even some fights.  Yet we are blessed to have each other, and we have been honored to become parents to 3 wonderful children.

God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin.

Tonight is a special night.  19 years ago I presented my girl with a ring that symbolized my love for her.  But tonight I sat across the table from two more beautiful girls and presented a ring to each of our teenage girls.  With this ring came a promise of purity.  For Julie and me, we are to pray for their future mates, and they are to keep themselves pure until their wedding night. 

This is not a commitment that I asked them to make lightly.  We’ve talked about this decision for sometime.  Back in the fall we purchased the rings from The Silver Ring Thing event that came to our community.  I love my girls, and I am terrified that I will not be a good parent.  Yet we have made a choice.  We will not hold back.  We will have conversations about tough things.  We will hold each other accountable.  We will pray for God’s help, God’s protection and for godly lives and wisdom to hold us strong. 

My desire is for my kids to be the best they can be.  I pray that their lives will be marked by their love for God.  The pleading of our prayer to God is often “don’t let our kids be those ‘preacher kids’ we’ve all heard of that get wild or go off the deep in.”  That means we have to make some choices.  Our kids need parents who will be godly and proactive.

To the faithful you show yourself faithful; to those with integrity you show integrity.

That day 19 years ago began a journey that we continue on.  This night and 2 more rings continue a journey that our children are on, and I can’t wait to see the blessings that God will bring into Rebecca and Ruth’s lives as they keep their eyes, their bodies and their futures pointed toward God.

I challenge you to not wait.  Don’t let the world get hold of your kids.  Do something now to let your kids see Jesus and know how important they are to you.  We are not perfect parents, and our kids are not perfect.  But we’ve made some choices that we are grateful for and excited about.  Making a commitment isn’t easy, but our lives will be sweeter and more blessed because we made it.

No comments:

interacting with the Word of God

My family is in the middle of a devotion that uses one of my favorite passages in the Bible about the Bible.   These words about the wor...