If you want a common or ordinary marriage, don’t honor or dishonor your spouse. Ruin your marriage or any relationship by removing honor from marriage. Most relationships start great because we honor each other, but in time relationships become common where honor is set aside.
To give worth or value to something is to give honor. There are lots of things that we value that few people think have value but others don’t think it is valuable. To honor is to lift up. To dishonor is to push down or to put lower. Honor lifts. Dishonor tears down. You and I have seen people do this often. Relationships change when you honor the other person.
Tragically we have become a culture where we rarely honor people. Biblically we are called to honor certain people. Think about it. Who are you honoring?
We are to honor our PARENTS.
Exodus 20:12 NASB
Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land the Lord your God gives you.
Would you agree that we are a culture that dishonors our parents? Teens talk back to the parents and get away with it. Yes ma’am and yes sir has almost gone away. It is time to go back to what our parents and others have know. We honor our moms and dads because it is right in God’s eyes. Even if they don’t deserve honor, we are honor them. Doing that teaches others to honor.
We are to honor those in AUTHORITY over us. Those that God has placed over us deserve our honor. We owe things to the people above us.
Romans 13:7 NIV
Give everyone what you owe him: If you owe taxes, pay them; if revenue, then revenue; respect, then respect; if honor, then honor.
Show honor to those in authority. Your coach, teacher, boss… before you are OVER you have to learn to show honor to those OVER you. Before you can be OVER others, you have to learn to be UNDER.
If we want someone to climb higher in life, learn to honor them. Let them know that they aren’t common, but they are honorable.
We are to honor our PASTORS and church LEADERS. We are called by God to honor those who spiritually instruct us. Pastors and church leaders. I don’t bring this to you to raise me up, but this is a Biblical mandate.
1 Timothy 5:17 NIV
The elders who direct the affairs of the church well are worthy of double honor, especially those whose work is preaching and teaching.
Following your leader is the biggest honor you can give. It lifts and helps others value. The Bible says…
Romans 12:10 ESV
Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
Going beyond what is the norm is honoring someone. If you want a great marriage, honor your mate. Highly esteem them. Show honor and value.
Why is it that we are culture without honor? The reason our culture is dishonoring is because people aren’t GOD. All true honor comes from a heart that surrendered to the king of kings.
Psalm 22:23 NASB
You who fear the Lord, praise him! All you descendants of Jacob, glorify him! Stand in awe of him, all you descendants of Israel!
We treat God as ordinary or common. He’s the big guy up stairs. Jesus is my home-boy. Dear 8 pound 6 ounce baby Jesus… Jesus is not a baby in a manger. That is not the Jesus that I have come to know. He is the Son of God, the gift from Heaven, God in the flesh, the soon coming king. He is Lord of Lords and King of Kings and my prince of peace. He’s my Savior and source of life. He is the manager of all and maker of every thing in and out of this world. He is my God and my friend and all I need!
See God for who He is. We will honor others when we see who God is and honor is. We will reclaim honor when we look at God. It is right and holy.
You are valuable because Jesus gave you value. The only reasonable thing we can do is bring honor and value to God.
Isaiah 29:13 NLT
And so the Lord says, “These people say they are mine. They honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. And their worship of me is nothing but man-made rules learned by rote.
We will not be a generation that only brings God lips service. When we realize what God has done and how he has honored us, we will honor Him. That is when we will remember the forgotten virtue of honor.